The Skin You’re In

Your body is evidence of who you have been, how you have treated yourself, and a trace off how Life treated you as well. If you hate on your body you are not in peace with the past, who you have been and what the past has been like for you. You are angry with yourself and with your life if you hate on your body.

Your body holds memory of every thing you have been through. It knows every thought you have thought and the same with your feelings. Your body remembers in its own way. Sometimes you don’t understand why you are reacting and acting in a certain way. You don’t know but your body remembers something from before and so it signals you to behave in the most beneficial way it knows. Therefore your body is a kind of subconscious. Through experiences you have evolved habits and defense mechanisms, you have learnt and you have made conclusions. Your body, you, are stressed by some things others are not and vice versa.

“Your body remembers something from before and so it signals you to behave in the most beneficial way it knows”

To make peace with your body, if you are not at peace yet, you have to make peace with your past and accept what is. Your body is now. It is always now. Like the mind it cannot travel to the past neither to the future. So to be in your body, aware in your body, feeling your body; your heart beating; your lungs filling themselves with air; you are accepting the present too. You are letting go of resistance, the holding on to the past or how you think things should be instead of what they are.

To start the process of getting to the point where you accept, respect and love your body, meaning yourself, you need to take it in steps. It is a process and you cannot expect yourself to make it all in one go.

Begin with respect that fact that your body has needs and you cannot neglect these needs. In this sense your body is like a child you need to take care of and you are the only parent it has. Your body depends on you and you need to meet its needs. Otherwise it does not function and so it will protest in every way it can. You need to breath, sleep and drink water every day. You need to provide your body with good quality food, to move and to keep clean. You need to rest and you need to go to the bathroom.

“Your body is like a child you need to take care of and you are the only parent it has”

Respect is about allowance. Allow yourself to have needs. Make it your practice to every day meet your needs. If you are not used to do this, if you have been neglecting your body and not been listening to what it needs than it will be hard. It might make you uncomfortable to suddenly obey to its needs. It can even feel like you are doing something wrong, but stay with it. Practice and be kind with yourself every step of the way. Just because you know you need to make peace with your body, yourself, your past and your life today it doesn’t mean you will be able to do so in one day. It will take time to root this new insight.

Find things with your body you are thankful for and appreciate. Maybe your heart beating and your lugns breathing with ease. Maybe your stomach functioning smoothly and digests the food you eat to spread the nutrients in your body so that you can live life. Maybe you have arms and legs that work well, they do not hurt and they help you in your everyday life. 

Do not force the appreciation upon yourself. You know that you should be thankful but you are not so don’t make that into something you feel guilt about as well. Instead question the thought why you shouldn’t be thankful. Ask yourself if your negative thoughts really are the true ones, if they hold reality in their hands. Just because you currently feel a certain way doesn’t mean that is the truth and reality. You have the right to feel what you feel, your own unique experience no one can take away from you, but it can also be a comfort to know feelings are not always true.

“Ask yourself if your negative thoughts really are the true ones, if they hold reality in their hands. Just because you currently feel a certain way doesn’t mean that is the truth and reality”

Respect > Accept and integrate > Appreciate 🙂

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